Tuesday, 4 March 2014

Lets Talk About The Good, The Bad and The Ugly

I read an emotional post from a fellow blogger yesterday and it got me thinking (dangerous thing to do) that in general we seem to only talk about the good things that happen in our lives. Even in this day and age I'm finding that the sad times, the harder, grittier subjects tend to get glossed over, made to look better or just ignored completely. I include myself in this, as I've struggled to be honest with people about how I feel, nine times out of ten you will see me with a smile on my face regardless of the things I have dealt with on any given day or what thoughts are floating around in my head. I think it is high time that we were able to talk about the good, the bad and the ugly, I mean whats the worst that can happen?

I think one of my problems when it comes to talking is that I get embarrassed. I'm sure my friends and family really wouldn't bat an eye lid at half the things that I have to say and that they would just be happy to help. Infact I am one of these people that love to help, I'm great at giving the advice but not so good at taking it.

What's the saying, "it's good to talk".


In recent month I have found this to be true, even if I don't generally talk in the literal sense.

Blogging has become my way of "talking". I get a feeling of relief from getting things out into the big wide world. It is one of the reasons I have become so addicted to blogging, it allows me to get all of the random things bobbing along in my brain out of my head and allows others to ponder my thoughts instead and it is always good to know that there are others that are feeling/have felt the same way that you do.

A lot of you probably think that I am mad being able to air my thoughts in such a public way when sometimes I struggle to get them out in privacy of my own home with my nearest and dearest but I somehow feel less judged. I think it easier to just write it down and press enter than it is to say it to someones face. You don't get a look of pity/sadness/jealousy etc from an internet screen.

What we all have to start remembering, again I am including myself in this, is that it is ok to not be happy all of the time, it is absolutely fine to have a moan every once in while, really no subject should be taboo, not everything is black and white. We should all take a moment to realise that life isn't perfect, there will be highs and there will be lows but should all be allowed to talk about these freely without the fear of being judged.

So cheers to the good, the bad and the ugly in our lives and I look forward to sharing and discussing all of these days with you all.

xxxx

18 comments:

  1. Yes it really is ok to be sad and unhappy sometimes and we need to give ourselves a break. Plus I think moaning is very therapeutic too! And I totally agree writing things down is far easier than seeing people's reactions face to face.

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    1. I personally love a good moan!! :)

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  2. Chantelle, I can so relate to this post! I can also see what you mean about sharing info with the big wide world via the blog but not out loud to our nearest and dearest! You are totally right to say it's OK to talk about the not so good things at times! Thanks for the honest approach xx

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    1. Just another one of those thoughts bobbing around in my head :) hope it rings true with more people, let the talking commence x

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  3. Yeah as far as I'm concerned blogging is a form of cheap therapy! Best to let it all out. I share quite a lot about my mental illness experience over on my blog - it's good to talk! :)

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  4. It's such a tricky one for me because I know that a lot of my family read my blog as a way of keeping up with what we're doing in the US and I never want to worry them. But I have occasionally written about particularly difficult days, or when I've been feeling a bit lost. The support from other bloggers is always amazing, and makes me feel much better. I wish I could be more open, and perhaps I should just say sod it, if they're worried they can call me :) #MMWBH

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    1. I have family that read my blog too, like you jjust said, if they are worried then you are only a phone call away + if you find it difficult saying it to them then I suppose blogging it is a bit like writing them an open letter x

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  5. I love nothing more than a good moan - I'm finding it harder and harder on my blog as those I want to moan about read it - catch 22 :(

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    1. very much so, hope you can figure out a way around it. x

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  6. i think for me its easier to do in writing rather than to share with someone, i feel that i dont want to be a hassle to friends and family (as i heard them saying oh you always smiling and laughing and thats what we like about you) and i dont think they will ever be interested in my problems or would want me to share

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    1. I know what you mean, I'm always asked how I can be so happy all the time and if I were to be honest with them the truth would be that I'm not but like you I don't think others will be interested to here my troubles x

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  7. Of course it is ok to be sad and let your feelings out - and the best thing about blogging is that I find it easier to get my feelings out rather than keep lumping them on the people at home. As a result I will always find someone willing to listen, share their thoughts and give advice. I don't continuously complain but when I am feeling particularly down, my blog is the place to go! Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x

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    1. It is nice being able to find people willing to give advice whilst you sit in the comfort of your own home!! xx

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  8. Your post is very true hun. I prefer writing things down or having a little moan to my hubby (he is a very good listener at times) x

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    1. aaww my hubby is the one to do the moaning lol x

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  9. I need to write a post that I've not shared with people in person! Thanks for the reminder it's OK to share the not so good stuff too! #carnival

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    1. Look forward to reading your post hun x

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